Have you ever second-guessed yourself? I do from time to time, especially on decisions that I know will affect a substantial part of my life. The second-guessing might be a gut feeling warning of a possible mistake, which is a good thing. There are, however, unhealthy indecisions. Where you stall from moving forward or towards the desired goal. Such indecision may be coming from a fear of failure which may be crippling to growth. We all like avoiding failure. But as much as we do, we should not give fear power over our lives by taking inspired actions, being a little courageous, and having some sprinkle of faith.
I was surprised to learn that indecision is closely linked to anxiety, worry, and depression and has been listed as a symptom of Major Depressive Disorder for decades according to this source. Indecisiveness is defined as a maladaptive trait resulting in difficulty making decisions across time and situations. Fear of unknown bad outcomes contributing to a big portion.
We worry about the future. It is okay to think about the future but thinking too much of what is to come can fuel anxiety and distract us from the present moment. But how do we stop worrying about the future? Having confidence in our actions and some optimism about the future will help reduce the worries.
To some people, indecisiveness is a way of making sure they make the right decision, considering all their options before finalizing on anything. To others, it can hinge on other minor problems such as affecting behaviors manifesting as socially awkward situations. Some researchers say that Indecision is linked to ADHD.
Often, the desire to be one hundred percent sure of the accuracy or correctness of your decision makes you indecisive. While this aspiration is laudable in most situations, it can trigger excessive stress and lead to a lack of self-trust. We should however acknowledge that making decisions takes time and energy in weighing options and being indecisive is part of the process. It’s already commendable that you are thinking about your situation. It’s almost impossible to be 100% sure. The desire to be completely correct can lead to stress, but we can learn how to handle this problem.
The risk of a wrong decision is preferable to the terror of indecision.Maimonides
On self-assessment, I discovered I struggled with important decisions in my life. The indecisions are due to worries of what-if possibilities. The absence of courage in such decisions can be costly. It builds on pressure and distracts from being in the present moment. Many of these indecisive moments span from various sources such as; breaking from limiting beliefs and trying to adopt new empowering beliefs. Letting go of the past and embracing the present moment, deciding the bridges to burn and where to direct the new energies, agreeing to situations even though the heart says otherwise, and basing decisions from past failures to mention a few. Goal setting, having faith, and trusting the process has helped solve indecision struggles. Many other solutions can be used to assist with this issue.
Indecision and delays are the parents of failure.George Canning
There are many suggestions on how to deal with indecisiveness. From reading on the subject to be aware of what it is, consulting experts, attending workshops or taking courses on the same, being physically active, playing games to work on the brain, and finally accepting the truth on one’s indecisions. Self-assessments are always good. They can help you get out of your way, attaining desired growth. What is your take and experience with indecision?